With Valentine’s Day coming, I thought it would be “cool” to watch that movie “Valentine’s Day”. You know the one with George Lopez, Ashton Kutcher, Jennifer Garner and this all-star cast of awesome people? Well, with all the amazing actors and actresses they had on this movie, it was pretty bad.
First of all, since when is that real life? Not everyone in the world finds someone or has the guts to tell the person how they feel. That movie bugged me for that reason. All they cared about was having “someone to love” and in the end they were together… When does that really happen? Have you tried doing one of those corny things they do in movies to make someone fall in love with you? Try it out and let me know how that goes…
Why can’t we all be happy with what we have instead of wasting time in futile things like finding a girlfriend? Back in middle school and high school it was a “status symbol” to be walking in the hallway with a girl holding your hand or having your hand on her waist. But as we grow up into our college years and even adulthood, no one cares if you have a girlfriend. People like you no matter what. They aren’t going to not be your friend because you don’t have a “significant other”. You aren’t going to lose your job or not be hired because you are single.
So why does society put all their chips on this thing called love? For me it’s because we want to feel loved by someone. But then in reality, what is love? Can you really feel it or is it just a four letter word that has no meaning?
Is it love at first sight or lust? Do you just “love” someone because we want to have sex with them? To me, I believe that for my generation, love is simply a four-letter word we use to get in our girlfriend’s pants. But you won’t hear anyone else say that.
And I think that’s where the problem begins. We use the word LOVE like its toilet paper. We use it way too much and waste it at times. We see little kids in middle school saying they love each other when they are only 12 years old. They can’t possibly know what love is at such a young age. Some adults don’t even know what love is and you are going to try and tell me some 12 year old punk does?
When you are in high school, when you tell your girlfriend you “love” her its basically codeword for, “hey, you’re hot. Let’s go have sex because we love eachother”. Can someone please tell me the percentage of high school relationships that last longer than those four high school years? Some are the lucky few that have done it, but the majority of them never last. I think of all the people I know, only one couple comes to mind that they have been together since high school. The rest? Well they fight and have a horrible break-up that, if you are friends with both of them, ends up on you choosing one or the other. Trust me, those are never fun.
If you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, good for you. If you don’t, why are you wasting all your time trying to find someone? Just because your friends have one doesn’t mean it’s time for you to have one. There’s always a reason behind everything and we all know that. If you have been a “free agent” for a while now, soon you will find your team (sorry, I’m a sportswriter, I couldn’t go a whole article without a sports analogy). Don’t waste your time looking for someone, enjoy your life with what you have. Look at the positives you have and it will always outweigh the negatives. You don’t have a girlfriend? Well you have a good job, a nice car, and money. Who cares if you don’t have a girlfriend?
Just do yourself a favor, if you have a good friend that is a girl and you like her, don’t be a fool to tell her you like her and want to “take the relationship to the next level”. It will only freak her out and that amazing friendship you once had will be gone in a flash. I’ve made that mistake once, and trust me when I say this, it’s not fun losing a good friend because you are selfish and you want her to be your girlfriend.
Moral of this post? What is love? Well, I don’t know but I hear that once you are in love, it’s like a drug (not that song by Kesha). Love is about liking the girl no matter what. Accepting her flaws, loving her for who she is, telling her she’s beautiful even without any make-up on, telling her you are always there for her during the good times and the bad times. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Once you realize that’s how you feel about someone, you know you are in love… other than that, it’s just lust.
Stay Classy My Friends and until next time,